Relationship Coaching & Counselling
in Scotland & Online
Feeling stuck in your relationship?
We are here to help you navigate challenges with the person who matters most.
Let’s uncover together what’s holding you back and how you can move forward with clarity and hope.
Shift from feeling trapped and distant to feeling free and connected.
As practicing Christians, we offer a space where faith can be part of the conversation.
We support individuals and couples to transform their romantic relationships.
- “I feel distant and disconnected from my spouse.”
- “My partner doesn’t listen to a thing that comes out of my mouth!”
- “My partner has recently been unfaithful towards me and I just can’t seem to move past it!”
- “I was not aware that my spouse was in anyway unsatisfied.”
- “I feel like I’m at a breaking point and I can’t see any way to get out. I sometimes wonder if I am experiencing abuse. ”
- “We are going round and round over the same old ground.”
- “There are too many ‘no-go areas’ in our relationship.”
- “We feel like room-mates these days and not like lovers.”
- “We need new strategies to talk to each other in a way where we both feel secure and understood.”
- “We have good days together, but thebad days are very bad.”
- “We enjoy life together on the whole, but think things could be better in some areas.”
WONDERING IF THINGS CAN CHANGE?
Yes they can! We’ve seen it many times.
Work with us
to find flow again
Meet the Tanzer Team
Bella Tanzer
Bella leads the therapeutic work at Flow.
She is passionate about walking with people as they pursue transformation, helping them find deeper connections with others and with themselves, all while grounding their journey in the Christian faith.
Bella holds a diploma in integrative counselling and is an accredited member of ACC in the UK. She also holds a Master’s degree in Teaching and a Certificate in Biblical Studies and is committed to lifelong learning and growth.
Having seen change and restoration in her own life, Bella is dedicated to creating a safe space for clients to move from stuckness to flow, and from distance to connection—at their own pace and in their unique way.
With a deep understanding of the power of faith, Bella brings a Christ-centered approach to her work, supporting individuals and couples as they navigate challenges and seek meaningful transformation.
She is privileged to have been part of transformative journeys over the years, both with individuals and couples.
You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending.
C.S. Lewis
Roman Tanzer
Roman manages the operational side of our practice and ensures everything runs smoothly behind the scenes. When you first get in touch he is probably the one who will respond to you.
Having personally experienced the benefits of counselling, Roman has seen transformation in his own relationships by applying the principles we now share with our clients. His own journey has deepened his understanding of how faith and growth intertwine, and he is committed to supporting others as they embark on their own paths of change.
Roman holds a certificate in Counselling and is currently waiting to begin a diploma course. He looks forward to joining Bella in the therapeutic work in the near future.
He also holds a BSc. in Media Informatics and an advanced diploma in Applied Theology, combining a technical mind with a heart dedicated to spiritual growth and understanding.
The Road goes ever on and on. Down from the door where it began. Now far ahead the Road has gone, And I must follow, if I can, Pursuing it with weary feet, Until it joins some larger way, Where many paths and errands meet. And whither then? I cannot say.
J.R.R. Tolkien
Roman & Bella…
…met in a garden in their first home country Austria, fell in love and got married in 2008. Over the years they have grown together as friends, lovers and parents – navigating life’s ups and downs while continuing to learn together also as disciples of Jesus. Having been in the UK for nearly eight years they call Scotland their second home.
your journey with Flow
- …understand your relationship patterns.
With this awareness, break free from old cycles and build stronger, more fulfilling connections. - …challenge the negative stories you’ve been telling yourself.
Develop lasting confidence and silence that inner critic, replacing limiting beliefs with an empowering narrative. - …honour your healthy boundaries.
Gain practical tools to protect your emotional space and confidently say “no” without guilt, trusting in God’s guidance to help you be authentic. - …master the skills to express your true needs.
Learn how to navigate difficult conversations with clarity, ensuring your relationships are based on respect and understanding. - …create a future with stronger relationships.
By rebuilding and growing, forge deeper connections, reflecting God’s love, and find peace in your relationships moving forward.
- …understand your relationship dynamics
and break free from cycles of miscommunication. - …rebuild trust.
Move past betrayal and rebuild emotional safety, allowing God’s healing to guide you through the process. - …strengthen your bond.
Rekindle emotional intimacy and deepen your friendship with your partner, strengthening your relationship with love and respect. - …improve conflict.
Turn arguments into opportunities for growth, transforming disagreements with respect and understanding, seeking God’s wisdom along the way. - …reignite passion and romance.
Build a fulfilling sex life and rediscover romance, reigniting the spark in your relationship. - …build a shared future.
Align your goals and create a path forward, building your life together on a strong foundation of faith and love.
Sessions and Pricing
- We offer in person session in Kirkcaldy/Fife and Dalkeith near Edinburgh.
- We live in Scotland – but you don’t have to! For individual clients who want more flexibility or live further away we also offer online work subject to legal requirements of your country of residence.
- We typically work for a minimum of 3 months and often for a year and longer.
- Clients have the choice between weekly and fortnightly sessions.
For clients experiencing financial hardship we offer a limited amount of concession spaces. If this is you, please let us know in the final question of the Get-Started form and we will be in touch about availability and documents we might need.
Your next steps
Simply fill out our friendly questionnaire by clicking the “GET STARTED” button. We will be in touch with you.
1. Fill out Application
Click on the GET STARTED and complete the simple questionaire to find out what is holding you back.
2. Schedule your free call
Once we have heard from you we will get in touch with some suggestions for an optional free 20-minute consultation.
3. Let’s talk!
Meet us for a confidential zoom call and discuss how you can improve your relationship.
What our clients are saying
Our social purpose
At The Flow Collective, we’re committed to making relationship counselling more accessible. That’s why 10% of what our full-paying clients contribute goes directly toward funding sessions for individuals who are experiencing financial hardship.
When you work with us, you’re not just investing in yourself—you’re also helping someone else access the support they need during difficult times. Together, we’re creating meaningful change.
Thank you for being part of this mission.
How to find us
in Kirkcaldy / Fife
Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays and some Saturdays
c/o New Volunteer House
16 East Fergus Place, Kirkcaldy, KY1 1XT
Our practice is conveniently located in the heart of town, just 3 minutes’ walk from both the train station and the bus station in Kirkcaldy. Free parking is available at the train station.
in Dalkeith / Midlothian
Tuesdays and some Saturdays
c/o mysa therapy rooms
6a Newmills Road, Dalkeith
Midlothian, Scotland, EH22 1DU
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c/o New Volunteer House
16 East Fergus Place, Kirkcaldy, KY1 1XT