Counselling

in Fife and Midlothian

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Feeling stuck in a key relationship ?

We are here to help you navigate challenges with the people who matter most.

Let’s uncover together what’s holding you back and how you can move forward with clarity and hope.

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Shift from feeling trapped and distant to feeling free and connected.

We support individuals and couples to transform their closest relationships.

Want to see a shift in your life?

Maybe you…

…feel distant from your partner and exhausted from fighting?
…are struggling to feel confident no matter how hard you try?
…are still feeling like a child around your parents, no matter how old you are?
…want to say no but don’t know how without feeling guilty?
…are feeling overwhelmed as a parent and unsure if you’re doing enough?
…can’t stop thinking about your ex-partner and wondering why it still hurts?
…are struggling to imagine how you’ll ever move on from losing someone?

Hoping to make changes as a couple?

Are you…

…tired of going round in circles but not hearing each other?
…feeling like room-mates or a tag team and not like lovers anymore?
…struggling to get over an affair?

Do you…

…have good days together, but the bad days are very bad?
…enjoy your relationship on the whole, but still think some things could be better?

WONDERING IF THINGS CAN CHANGE?

Yes they can! We’ve seen it many times.

Work with us to find flow again

Meet the Tanzer Team

Roman Tanzer

Roman manages the operational side of our practice and ensures everything runs smoothly behind the scenes. When you first get in touch he is probably the one who will respond to you.

Roman has seen the benefit of counselling in his own journey and has experienced transformation in his own relationships as he learned to apply the principles that we now share with our clients.

He holds a certificate in Counselling and is currently waiting to start a diploma course. He is looking forward to joining Bella in the therapeutic work in the near future.

He holds a BSc. in Media Informatics and an advanced diploma in Applied Theology.

The Road goes ever on and on. Down from the door where it began. Now far ahead the Road has gone, And I must follow, if I can, Pursuing it with weary feet, Until it joins some larger way, Where many paths and errands meet. And whither then? I cannot say.
J.R.R. Tolkien

Bella Tanzer

Bella leads the therapeutic work at Flow.

She is passionate about walking with people as they pursue transformation to find a deeper connection with other and themselves.

Bella holds a diploma in integrative counselling and is an accredited member of ACC in the UK. She has a M.A. in teaching and continues to cultivate a love for learning and a growth mindset.

Having seen change and restoration in her own life Bella holds space for her clients to move from stuckness towards flow, from distance towards connection – at their own pace and in their own unique way.

She is privileged to have been part of many transformation journeys over the years both with individuals and couples.

You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending.
C.S. Lewis

Roman & Bella…

…met in their first home country Austria and got married in 2008. Over the years they have grown together as friends, lovers and parents – navigating life’s ups and downs while continuing to learn and grow together. They have called Scotland their second home for nearly a decade.

your journey with Flow

Make a shift in your life

Work with us to…

…understand your relationship patterns.
With this awareness, break free from old cycles and build stronger, more fulfilling connections.
…challenge the negative stories you’ve been telling yourself.
Develop lasting confidence and silence that inner critic, replacing limiting beliefs with an empowering narrative.
…honour your healthy boundaries.
Gain practical tools to protect your emotional space and confidently say “no” without guilt.
…master the skills to express your true needs.
Learn how to navigate difficult conversations with clarity, ensuring your relationships are based on respect and understanding.
…create a future with stronger relationships.
By rebuilding and growing, forge deeper connections and find peace in your relationships moving forward.

Create change as a couple

We help you build tools to…

…understand your relationship dynamics
and break free from cycles of miscommunication.
…rebuild trust.
Move past betrayal and rebuild emotional safety.
…strengthen your bond.
Rekindle emotional intimacy and deepen your friendship with your partner.
…improve conflict.
Turn arguments into opportunities for growth, transforming disagreements with respect and understanding.
…reignite passion and romance.
Build a fulfilling sex life and rediscover romance, reigniting the spark in your relationship.
…build a shared future.
Align your goals and create a path forward, ensuring you’re building a life together on a strong foundation.

Sessions and Pricing

We offer in person session in Kirkcaldy/Fife and Dalkeith near Edinburgh.
We live in Scotland – but you don’t have to! For individual clients who want more flexibility or live further away we also offer online work subject to legal requirements of your country of residence.
We typically work for a minimum of 3 months and often for a year and longer.
Clients have the choice between weekly and fortnightly sessions.

Individuals

£60 for a 50min session.

Couples

£80 for a 60min session.
£190 for a 2.5 hour sessions (Deep Dive).

For clients experiencing financial hardship we offer a limited amount of concession spaces. If this is you, please let us know in the final question of the Get-Started form and we will be in touch about availability and documents we might need.

Your next steps

Simply fill out our friendly questionnaire by clicking the “GET STARTED” button. We will be in touch with you.

1. Fill out Application

Click on the GET STARTED and complete the simple questionaire to find out what is holding you back.

2. Schedule your free call

Once we have heard from you we will get in touch with some suggestions for an optional free 20-minute consultation.

3. Let’s talk!

Meet us for a confidential zoom call and discuss how you can improve your relationship.

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What our clients are saying

Working with Bella has been truly transformative. As an adult I was struggling with setting boundaries and I felt stuck. Through her insightful reflections and undistorted mirror, I gained invaluable clarity and awareness. Bella gave me practical feedback based on genuine connection and a wealth of knowledge. I am deeply grateful for her intuitive and compassionate guidance which enabled me to embrace my strengths and feel able to move forward towards my goals.

“Working with Bella has been truly transformative.”

Bella worked with me last year and supported me on my journey during relationship breakdown. Bella offered a caring and compassionate space for me to look at what was happening in my life, and used her excellent counselling skills to help me to recover and look to the future with hope. She really listened to me, showed empathy and patience, and let me take time to uncover and understand my feelings . She truly helped me so I could help myself and take care of my health.

“She helped me so I could help myself”xcsd

Bella is meticulous in her even-handed approach to us as couple. Bella is well-organised with week by week arrangements & clear around boundaries.

“Even-handed approach to us as a couple.”Company Name

“Working with Bella has enabled us to have difficult conversations about what had become no-go areas of our relationship”Company Name

From a male perspective, I find it helpful that the resources are research-based. They are constructive in moving us forward in our relationship, where previously we might have gone round and round over the same old ground. I liked that sessions feel positive, and forward looking as much as backward looking.

“The resources are constructive in moving us forward.”Company Name

I started sessions with Bella because of a lot of pain, confusion and frustration in my closest relationships. She has really helped me understand why I feel the way I do and has taught me some concrete skills to reduce conflict and grow closer to my family. I feel so much happier and hopeful for these relationships now, even though there is still work ahead. I really clicked with Bella’s gentle style and her insightful questions helped me to work out how to escape the rut I was in.

“I feel so much happier and hopeful.”Company Name

I decided to get counselling after my relationship was failing, from years of compartmentalising trauma that I had experienced. Working with Bella helped identify the real root causes of my issues and together we began to work on navigating through these and questioning the negative stories I was telling myself. After 18 months working with Bella, coming to terms with what happened and dealing with the effects, I feel free, hopeful and positive about my future and my relationship has drastically improved. I feel very fortunate to have had Bella as my guide through such an important process.

“My relationship has drastically improved.”Company Name

In each session with Bella, I know I am free to show up just as I am. She holds space for my emotions and questions, provides prompts in places I feel stuck and offers wisdom in the same breath as grace. I trust her wholeheartedly. She takes great care in her role as counsellor, it’s evident in each word she speaks. I could give no higher recommendation.

“I trust her wholeheartedly.”“Company Name

Our social purpose

At The Flow Collective, we’re committed to making relationship counselling more accessible. That’s why 10% of what our full-paying clients contribute goes directly toward funding sessions for individuals who are experiencing financial hardship.

When you work with us, you’re not just investing in yourself—you’re also helping someone else access the support they need during difficult times. Together, we’re creating meaningful change.

Thank you for being part of this mission.

How to find us

in Kirkcaldy / Fife
Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays and some Saturdays
c/o New Volunteer House
16 East Fergus Place, Kirkcaldy, KY1 1XT

Our practice is conveniently located in the heart of town, just 3 minutes’ walk from both the train station and the bus station in Kirkcaldy. Free parking is available at the train station.

in Dalkeith / Midlothian
Tuesdays and some Saturdays
c/o mysa therapy rooms
6a Newmills Road, Dalkeith
Midlothian, Scotland, EH22 1DU

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c/o New Volunteer House
16 East Fergus Place, Kirkcaldy, KY1 1XT