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Relationship Coaching & Counselling

in Scotland & Online

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Feeling stuck in your relationship?

We are here to help you navigate challenges with the person who matters most.

Let’s uncover together what’s holding you back and how you can move forward with clarity and hope.

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Shift from feeling trapped and distant to feeling free and connected.

We support individuals and couples to transform their romantic relationships.

Want to see a shift in your relationship?

Is this your situation right now?

  • “I feel distant and disconnected from my spouse.”
  • “My partner doesn’t listen to a thing that comes out of my mouth!”
  • “My partner has recently been unfaithful towards me and I just can’t seem to move past it!”
  • “I was not aware that my spouse was in anyway unsatisfied.”
  • “I feel like I’m at a breaking point and I can’t see any way to get out. I sometimes wonder if I am experiencing abuse. ”
  • “We are going round and round over the same old ground.”
  • “There are too many ‘no-go areas’ in our relationship.”
  • “We feel like room-mates these days and not like lovers.”
  • “We need new strategies to talk to each other in a way where we both feel secure and understood.”
  • “We have good days together, but the bad days are very bad.”
  • “We enjoy life together on the whole, but think things could be better in some areas.”

WONDERING IF THINGS CAN CHANGE?

Yes they can! We’ve seen it many times.

Work with us
to find flow again

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Meet the Tanzer Team

Bella Tanzer

Bella leads the therapeutic work at Flow.

She is passionate about walking with people as they pursue transformation to find a deeper connection with their significant other and themselves.

Bella holds a diploma in integrative counselling and is an accredited member of ACC in the UK. She has a M.A. in teaching and continues to cultivate a love for learning and a growth mindset.

Having seen change and restoration in her own life Bella holds space for her clients to move from stuckness towards flow, from distance towards connection – at their own pace and in their own unique way.

She is privileged to have been part of many transformation journeys over the years both with individuals and couples.

Roman Tanzer

Roman manages the operational side of our practice and ensures everything runs smoothly behind the scenes. When you first get in touch he is probably the one who will respond to you.

Roman has seen the benefit of counselling in his own journey and has experienced transformation in his own relationships as he learned to apply the principles that we now share with our clients.

He holds a certificate in Counselling and is currently training as a systemic coach with a focus on family systems.

Roman holds a BSc. in Media Informatics and an advanced diploma in Applied Theology.

Roman & Bella…

…met in a garden in their first home country Austria, became friends, fell in love and got married in 2008. Over the years they have grown together as friends, lovers and parents of 2 – navigating life’s ups and downs while continuing to learn to love each other. They wholeheartedly believe that love grows over time when both partners invest! Bella and Roman moved to the UK in 2017 and now call Scotland their second home.

Your journey with Flow

Make a shift in your life

Work with us to…

  • ….know what is going on in your inner world. Understand your emotions and needs and learn to tune in with your significant other.
  • …understand your attachment style.
    Break free from old patterns you that no longer serve you and transform your relationship.
  • … reduce conflict. Eliminate unhelpful communication patterns and replace them with communication tools that create connection and respect.
  • ….learn to look at yourself with kind eyes. If we can respect and love ourselves and silence that inner critic this will have an impact on our relationships!

Create change as a couple

We help you build tools to…

  • …understand your relationship dynamics
    and break free from cycles of miscommunication.
  • …rebuild trust.
    Move past betrayal and rebuild emotional safety.
  • …strengthen your bond.
    Rekindle emotional intimacy and deepen your friendship with your partner.
  • …improve conflict.
    Turn arguments into opportunities for growth, transforming disagreements with respect and understanding.
  • …reignite passion and romance.
    Build a fulfilling sex life and rediscover romance, reigniting the spark in your relationship.
  • …build a shared future.
    Align your goals and create a path forward, ensuring you’re building a life together on a strong foundation.

Sessions and Pricing

  • If both of you want to work on your relationship we strongly encourage you to do couples work rather than individual work. Research done by the Gottman Institute has shown that a shift is more likely to happen when both partners engage with the process. Having said that, we regularly see people improve their relationships when their partner is not present. If one person changes position this often has an impact on the relationship.
  • We offer in-person session in Kirkcaldy/Fife and Dalkeith near Edinburgh.
  • For clients who want more flexibility or live further away we also offer online and hybrid work subject to legal requirements of your country of residence.
  • We typically work for a minimum of 3 months and often for a year and longer.
  • Clients have the choice between weekly and fortnightly sessions.

Individuals

£60 for a 50min session.

Couples

£80 for a 60min session.
Deep Dive: £190 for a 2.5 hour sessions.

For clients experiencing financial hardship we offer a limited amount of concession spaces. If this is you, please let us know in the “Other Comments” section of the Get-Started form and we will be in touch about availability and documents we might need.

Your next steps

Simply fill out our friendly questionnaire by clicking the “GET STARTED” button. We will be in touch with you.

1. Fill out Application

Click on the GET STARTED and complete the simple questionaire to find out what is holding you back.

2. Schedule your free call

Once we have heard from you we will get in touch with some suggestions for an optional free 20-minute consultation.

3. Let’s talk!

Meet us for a confidential zoom call and discuss how you can improve your relationship.

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What our clients are saying

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Working with Bella has been truly transformative. As an adult  I was struggling with setting boundaries and I felt stuck. Through her insightful reflections and undistorted mirror, I gained invaluable clarity and awareness. Bella gave me practical feedback based on genuine connection and a wealth of knowledge. I am deeply grateful for her intuitive and compassionate guidance which enabled me to embrace my strengths and feel able to move forward towards my goals.
“Working with Bella has been truly transformative.”
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Bella worked with me last year and supported me on my journey during relationship breakdown. Bella offered a caring and compassionate space for me to look at what was happening in my life, and used her excellent counselling skills to help me to recover and look to the future with hope. She really listened to me, showed empathy and patience, and let me take time to uncover and understand my feelings . She truly helped me so I could help myself and take care of my health.
“She helped me so I could help myself”xcsd
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Bella is meticulous in her even-handed approach to us as couple. Bella is well-organised with week by week arrangements & clear around boundaries.
“Even-handed approach to us as a couple.”Company Name
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“Working with Bella has enabled us to have difficult conversations about what had become no-go areas of our relationship”Company Name
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From a male perspective, I find it helpful that the resources are research-based. They are constructive in moving us forward in our relationship, where previously we might have gone round and round over the same old ground. I liked that sessions feel positive, and forward looking as much as backward looking.
“The resources are constructive in moving us forward.”Company Name
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I started sessions with Bella because of a lot of pain, confusion and frustration in my closest relationships. She has really helped me understand why I feel the way I do and has taught me some concrete skills to reduce conflict and grow closer to my family. I feel so much happier and hopeful for these relationships now, even though there is still work ahead. I really clicked with Bella’s gentle style and her insightful questions helped me to work out how to escape the rut I was in.
“I feel so much happier and hopeful.”Company Name
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I decided to get counselling after my relationship was failing, from years of compartmentalising trauma that I had experienced. Working with Bella helped identify the real root causes of my issues and together we began to work on navigating through these and questioning the negative stories I was telling myself. After 18 months working with Bella, coming to terms with what happened and dealing with the effects, I feel free, hopeful and positive about my future and my relationship has drastically improved. I feel very fortunate to have had Bella as my guide through such an important process.
“My relationship has drastically improved.”Company Name
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In each session with Bella, I know I am free to show up just as I am. She holds space for my emotions and questions, provides prompts in places I feel stuck and offers wisdom in the same breath as grace. I trust her wholeheartedly. She takes great care in her role as counsellor, it’s evident in each word she speaks. I could give no higher recommendation.
“I trust her wholeheartedly.”“Company Name

Our social purpose

At The Flow Collective, we’re committed to making relationship counselling more accessible. That’s why 10% of what our full-paying clients contribute goes directly toward funding sessions for individuals who are experiencing financial hardship.

When you work with us, you’re not just investing in yourself—you’re also helping someone else access the support they need during difficult times. Together, we’re creating meaningful change.

Thank you for being part of this mission.

How to find us

in Kirkcaldy / Fife
Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays and some Saturdays
c/o New Volunteer House
16 East Fergus Place, Kirkcaldy, KY1 1XT

Our practice is conveniently located in the heart of town, just 3 minutes’ walk from both the train station and the bus station in Kirkcaldy. Free parking is available at the train station.

in Dalkeith / Midlothian
Tuesdays and some Saturdays
c/o mysa therapy rooms
6a Newmills Road, Dalkeith
Midlothian, Scotland, EH22 1DU

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16 East Fergus Place, Kirkcaldy, KY1 1XT